Saying you're sorry is HARD.
The other week I said something really jerky to my best friend; the minute it came out of my mouth I regretted it.
I knew I had to apologize, but it took me a couple of hours because I was embarrassed by my poor behavior. I ended up feeling miserable the whole time I was formulating my apology - but when it was done, I felt a weight lifted off me.
"I'm sorry" is probably a phrase that leaves the most bitter taste in your mouth out of all the things passing your lips. But an apology can be the sweetest thing for someone else to hear and a balm to you as well if its sincere.
While its not easy to apologize and you may not want to - there are powerful benefits for you when you do.
1. Less Stress and Anxiety
When you know you've hurt someone, not only do they feel bad - YOU feel terrible.
The negative emotions can manifest physically and mentally. Need examples? How about depression, anxiety, heart disease, and muscle aches.
Doesn't sound too great does it?
Not saying sorry can also wreak havoc on your nervous system and get in the way of thinking clearly.
Who needs that jazz? Just apologize.
2. Reinforce Relationships
One of the 5 aspects of self care is Social Self Care.
This pertains to actions that nurture and deepen the relationships with people in your life.
Do you want to be deeply connected with the ones you love the most?
Sincerely apologizing gives you freedom to be vulnerable and intimate with the people you may have hurt.
You may stay away from people you know you should apologize to because you're embarrassed. Don't let your pride get in the way of a person you value.
Try out this I'm Sorry Card, its beautiful and has an apology quote written inside if you don't have the words.
3. Apologizing is Intentional
Saying or doing something hurtful is - most of the time - a mistake. Its something we wish we could erase.
I know I don't like making mistakes and the first thing I do is try to make the situation right.
That is intent.
Making a mistake, hurting someone's feelings is not intentional. Sincerely apologizing and admitting fault is being your best intentional self.
By taking responsibility, you are taking control to make things right and being purposeful about the outcome.
What's better than that?
Get a move on...
Maybe while you've been reading this, a person's face popped into your head.
You know what? Its time to give that intentional apology.
Need some help trying to think of ways to say "I'm sorry"? Try these:
Take 3 minutes to collect yourself, a deep breath, pick up the phone, and call
Write a heartfelt apology note or letter
Give an intentional self care gift - like this
Bake them something sweet
What's a way that's worked for you when you have to apologize? Leave a comment - it may help someone out!